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Cold Feet Wedding?

my fiance had cold feet but now she says she is over it. was another man (married)but she insists it was becasue he was complimenting her and showing her i guess what I was not. She proclaims they just talked denied any infidelity although she lied about his to me. She says she made a mistake and cried all night and told him face to face today as he is a co-worker that it is over.(whatever it was) I am confused as to how to handle this, she says she is wiling to do anything to regain my trust and is sorry for lying. Part of me wants to call the other guys wife, but I don’t have it in me and the little voice in my ear says be the bigger man. She still wants to get married in 7 months we have had a great relationship for the past 3 years no problems at all I am 34 and she is 26, but holds a very good job and is educated, not a party girl. How do I move on from this and try to forget and learn to trust her again. I think the thought of loosing me scared her. should the groom run away?

First, I don’t believe in cold feet. You fiance is just not ready to make a commitment. This is not about bashing her, because she has a right to her feelings, but she should not have used someone else to try to ease her reservations.

Do not listen to experts tell you that you can get trust back; you can’t. You might trust her, but it will never be the level of trust you had before this incident. I do not believe that you should marry her in seven months, if you marry her at all. Here’s what you need to ask yourself: Can you marry her, knowing that you will never really know what happened? Can you live with her and never mention it to her again? Can you look at her without wondering if she is going to do it again? The answers to these questions are inside of you. At 34, you know what you want in a woman, a relationship and a marriage. Does she fit all of this?

Take your time and think about this. Don’t listen to your family, friends, your fiance, or even to any of us. Listen to yourself and what you know will make you happy. Even if everyone else in your life disagrees, don’t doom yourself to something that you will regret or cannot live with for the rest of your life.

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